Miscarriage Thoughts

5 min readMay 20, 2023


Coping with the Loss of a Pregnancy

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Losing a pregnancy can be a devastating experience. When I had a miscarriage, I felt like I had lost a part of myself. The grief was overwhelming, and I found myself struggling to cope with the loss. One of the most challenging aspects of the experience was dealing with the flood of thoughts and emotions that came with it.

Miscarriage thoughts can be complex and difficult to navigate. It’s common to feel a range of emotions, including sadness, anger, guilt, and confusion. For me, the hardest part was dealing with the uncertainty and the what-ifs.

I found myself constantly questioning whether I could have done something differently, and wondering whether I would ever be able to have a healthy pregnancy. It was a lonely and isolating experience, and I often felt like no one could truly understand what I was going through.

Understanding Miscarriage

What is a Miscarriage?

As someone who has experienced four miscarriages, I know firsthand how difficult it can be to understand what exactly a miscarriage is and WHY it had to happen.

A miscarriage is the loss of a pregnancy before the 20th week. It can happen for a variety of reasons, and unfortunately, it is more common than many people realize.

Symptoms of Miscarriage

The symptoms of a miscarriage can vary from person to person. Some common symptoms include vaginal bleeding, cramping, and the passing of tissue.

However, it’s important to note that not all miscarriages present with these symptoms. When I was pregnant with my second child, I bled SO heavily in the first few weeks of pregnancy.

I was rushed to the hospital for fear of me having another miscarriage. I was TERRIFIED! Come to find out, I wasn’t having a miscarriage at all and she was fine in my tummy.

Also, some miscarriages can happen without any symptoms at all. And that is, even MORE, scarier! 2 out of my four miscarriages, I had NO miscarriage symptoms at all… I just lost my babies. They died inside me and I had no clue :( So unfair!

Causes of Miscarriage

There are many different factors that can contribute to a miscarriage. Some of the most common causes include chromosomal abnormalities. It’s important to understand that in most cases, a miscarriage is not caused by anything that the person who experienced it did or did not do.

When I experienced my own miscarriages, I found myself searching for answers and trying to find a reason why it happened. However, I soon realized that sometimes, there is no clear answer or explanation.

There are many myths and misconceptions surrounding miscarriage, and it’s important to seek out accurate information. If you have experienced a miscarriage, your healthcare provider may recommend blood work or ultrasound to help determine the cause.

In some cases, a procedure called a D&C (dilation and curettage) may be necessary to remove any remaining tissue. This procedure can cause physical pain, but it is often necessary to prevent infection and ensure that the miscarriage is complete. In three out of my four miscarriages, I had to have a D&C. It sucked :(

Understanding miscarriage can be a difficult and emotional process. It’s important to seek out accurate information, allow yourself to grieve, and remember that you are not alone.

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Dealing with Miscarriage And The Healing Journey

Coping with Miscarriage And Healing

When I experienced my miscarriages (especially my very first one), coping with the loss was one of the hardest things I ever had to do. I felt a range of emotions, from grief and sadness to anger and confusion.

One thing that helped me cope and heal was talking to my partner. We shared our feelings and thoughts about the experience, and it brought us closer together.

It was also helpful to talk to friends and family members who had gone through similar experiences. I also kept a miscarriage journal and wrote down my daily thoughts and what I was doing to help myself feel better each day.

If you’ve experienced a miscarriage, it’s important to know that you’re not alone. Many people struggle with miscarriage thoughts and the grief that comes with pregnancy loss. It’s okay to feel a range of emotions, and it’s important to give yourself time and space to process your feelings.

There are also many resources available for support, including support groups, counseling, miscarriage books, and online communities. I joined a few Facebook support groups after my miscarriages.

The healing journey after a miscarriage can be a long and difficult process. For me, it involved taking time to grieve and process the loss.

Support groups can be a great resource for those who have experienced a miscarriage. They provide a safe space to share your thoughts and feelings with others who have gone through similar experiences.

When looking for a support group, it’s important to find one that is a good fit for you. It’s also important to find a group that is inclusive and welcoming to all individuals, regardless of their background or beliefs.

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Emotional Impact of Miscarriage

Losing a pregnancy is a traumatic experience that can cause immense emotional pain and grief. I remember feeling a mix of emotions such as fear, confusion, anger, and guilt when I was going through a miscarriage. The emotional pain can be overwhelming, and it takes time to heal.

Grief and Emotional Pain

Grieving the loss of a pregnancy is a natural process, and it is essential to allow yourself to feel the pain and sadness that comes with it. The intensity and duration of grief vary from person to person. For me, the grief came in waves, and some days were harder than others. It is crucial to take the time to process your emotions and allow yourself to feel the pain.

The Role of the Partner

Partners play an essential role in the healing journey of a mother who has experienced a miscarriage. My partner was my rock during this time, and his support was invaluable. It is essential to communicate with your partner and share your feelings and emotions. This will help both of you to cope with the loss and heal together.

Support from Family and Friends

Support from family and friends can also play a crucial role in the healing process. It is essential to surround yourself with people who love and care for you. They can provide you with emotional support, comfort, and words of encouragement during this difficult time.

Going through a miscarriage is a painful experience that can leave a lasting impact. It is essential to allow yourself to grieve and process your emotions. Lean on your partner, family, and friends for support, and remember that healing takes time!

If you have ever suffered a miscarriage, know that you are not alone! I am here for you even though we don’t really know each other. Just know that you are NOT alone! Feel free to reach out to me anytime!

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