Rebuilding Trust: Steps to Heal from Infidelity (My Personal Experiences)

13 min readAug 7, 2023
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Below, you will find my personal story and experiences of trying to navigate betrayal trauma. But first, I wanted to say I am so sorry you are going through this too :(

Infidelity, or when someone cheats in a relationship, can be very hurtful. It can leave you feeling sad, angry, and confused.

The discovery of infidelity can leave you with emotional trauma, and with mental health issues.

The pain from this kind of betrayal is called infidelity trauma. If you’re going through this, know that you’re not alone and healing is possible but most definitely could take a long time to do so.

Betrayal trauma, such as infidelity, can also lead to significant psychological distress.

In some cases, it can result in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), a mental health condition triggered by experiencing or witnessing a terrifying event.

It’s characterized by intense, disturbing thoughts and feelings related to the traumatic experience.

It can really mess with your nervous system too. It can do SO much damage and you can lose your sense of self. I know this firsthand!!!

When someone you deeply trust — like a partner — betrays you, it can be as devastating as any other traumatic experience.

When I first found out I had panic attacks and could not breathe! It was horrible!! In order to heal, and get through these painful experiences, you will need to talk to someone (preferably a trained professional that is trained in treating PTSD). Also, talking to a trusted friend or loved one can have its benefits too.

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I am not really sure if you can fully heal, but I like to think you can. I guess, time will tell, huh?

Below, are 11 ideas you can try out, and see if they help you. I hope they do help you! Because the feeling of betrayal is absolutely horrible.




Someone who is trying to get through life in one piece and be the best version of myself. I also want to try and help others who are hurting or sad.